I have been exploring creativity and non-dual wisdom traditions since an early age, fascinated by the mysterious way thoughts and forms emerge. As an artist and seeker of truth, I have always been drawn to flow experiences — those moments when the sense of “doer-ship” dissolves.
This theme was at the heart of my Master’s paper, The Creative Process and Being with the Not-Knowing, written during my studies in Experiential and Creative Arts Therapy. One important learning from that time was the phenomenological approach: staying with what emerges, using descriptive words rather than conceptual or analytical language.
We can never fully capture an experience with words, but we can find approximations. In truth, from the mental plane, we don’t really know what anything is — though we often try to explain it. Describing essences, using very simple sentences (called healing sentences), rather than opinions or getting lost in stories, lies at the heart of Systemic Constellations.
In my groups, I invite us to slow down — to be fully present, inviting deep listening. We are invited to let go of of interpretation, concept, and assumption to encounter what emerges as it shows itself through observing our felt sense, body and breath. The silence between healing sentences is as essential as the silence between musical notes: without it, there is no music.
I have noticed how challenging this can feel for many participants. For some, who are used to busy lives and fast thinking, slowing down and meeting silence can initially feel unfamiliar — even uncomfortable — yet it often opens the door to deeper presence.
For others with a strong trauma history or PTSD, being in silence or stillness can be trauma triggering and may not be supportive. If you feel that may be the case, I invite you to contact me before joining, so we can explore together whether this kind of work feels right for you at this time.
Constellation work asks us to trust something deeper: our intuitive knowing, our innate primordial wisdom. With ongoing practice this ‘knowing’ deepens and becomes more spontaneous and effortless.
This exploration inspired me to offer an Introduction to Family Constellation course through Byron Community College earlier this year. I loved the experience and am happy to offer it again from 12th November – 3rd December. Bookings are through the College.
